Of all the loves, I’ve ever had From the greatest good to the obscenely bad The best ones were always you And you, and also you. Every time I think about this world I’ll start to cry, but I know I’ll be better If I can get through the night with you And you, and also you. I’m glad the bouquets at the store Always have more than one flower So, I can give one to you, And you, and also you. You are the lights of my life The loves that keep me going When I awake, I hope to see yo

If you've had more than one pey, you know that jealousy is a universal experience for us mammals. Pet dog #1 and dog #2 is all over you for attention. So how do ethically-non-monogamous (or ENM) people deal with their partners having sex or falling in love with others? Let’s consider jealousy in other areas of life for context. Kids have a tendency to be jealous of their siblings, or popular kids in school. In fact, part of what we learn in school is how to transmute envy i

As I write this article, I'm getting ready for a date with a married man. I can imagine his wife, who knows all about me, helping him pick out something to wear to impress me. I’m polyamorous (or poly). It’s been a slow evolution, and for the longest time I thought of myself as an everyday girl who wanted to date a guy and play with extra people in the bedroom. Looking back, I see polyamory is one part of a full spectrum of Ethical Non-Monogamy. It’s only recently that I’ve

The world isn't as black and white as we'd like it to be sometimes. Love doesn’t come in a box with a bow on it, neither does sexuality. Back in the day, there were hushed tones whispering about the neighbors having “key parties,” (where couples dropped their car keys into a fishbowl, and whomever you pulled out from the bunch was whose house you’re having a sleepover). There were the women who lived together as “roommates” while sitting for ham at Christmas dinner, but they

“A thing may happen and be a total lie; another thing may not happen and be truer than the truth.” -Tim O’Brien, The Things They Carried Inspired, beautiful, complicated, dangerous, fulfilling love. Our relationship with Love itself is polyamorous. Have you ever been confused about how to sort through your intense feelings toward someone? Were you maybe told there’s only one type of love? The one you find with a lifelong partner and no other human is allowed to share that sa